Teaching Our Kids About Sex

 

There's a fundamental misunderstanding about sex in this country, and I want to talk about it.

 

We here in the US are VERY DETERMINED that our teen kids not have sex, and that people don't have sex before marriage. However, no one knows WHY. No one understands what the actual reasons are for "not having sex." It's based on the judeo-christian perspective that "sex before marriage is wrong," but... the logic of such convictions is lost on the general public. So I want to get into "the why."

 

THE WHY is that Biblical Christianity teaches that when you have sex, the two become "one flesh." It doesn't matter whether they are two married people, or two single people... no matter what, when two people have consensual intercourse, they become one flesh. This relationship must be eternally enjoyed, or eternally endured. That means sex before marriage leads to eternal consequences. What those are, are anyone's guess? But they exist. That's why, from a Christian perspective, we try to discourage immoral sexual behavior - because it creates a permanent relationship between the two people having sex.

 

This thinking has been lost in the details. Our culture doesn't understand our obsession with abstinence, and THE REAL PROBLEM is that "neither do we." NO ONE understands. So they think it's stupid. It's not stupid? But without an agreement that having sex creates an eternal relationship, we can't expect unbelievers to go along with our preoccupation with abstinence. It's unrealistic. I think it might be best for our culture to not assume that teens are going to follow our advice (at least in schools) and teach them how to have safe sex. And in our homes... the homes of Christian teens... teach them that sex creates an eternal relationship that is unpleasant outside of marriage, and is no good for you.

 

Bottom line - it's not our schools' jobs to teach this. It's up to Christians teaching this in homes. And we need to stop hamstringing our schools... nonchristian teens will not be able to get their minds around our reasons, because they don't believe that they are true. And we need to accept that reality.

Transgender and Homosexuality Issues

Foremost, transgender is not in the Bible.  The Bible says absolutely nothing about it.  And all the science says that men and women have ZERO control over it.  They are born a certain way, and it can't be changed.  Transgender people cannot help themselves.

I had a friend that was a woman, that used to be a man?  The reason we are not friends at the moment has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with them being this way.  But she was nice, and I liked her in general.  She did something pretty evil on my 45th birthday that I don't want to get into now?  But she was a decent person in general.  And I always saw her as a woman.  It was easy... she had the kind of money that made it possible for her to basically "completely transition to being a woman"?  If you met her, you'd never know she used to be a man.  Interestingly enough, she was also gay (she was into women)... as a Christian, I really had no idea what to tell her.  I hate gay sex, but what am I supposed to say? 

Homosexuality is a more complex topic.

I want to point out that A LOT of lesbians aren't really that.  Before you argue with me... how many lesbians have you met?  They have what can only be characterized as "pent-up fury" towards men.  I think a lot of them were sexually or maybe just physically abused by men, and so they decided that they didn't want to be romantically involved with men.  Just... not all gay women feel this way?  Lauren (my transgender friend)'s partner was cool.  But a lot of them... you can tell.  You can tell that they REALLY hate men.  Just know... I felt the "resting rage" of a gay woman before... that's DEFINITELY a thing.  A lot of lesbians could become straight if they just got therapy and forgave the men that abused them.  Maybe even most of them could.

Gay men are another matter.  That's A LOT more complex.  Gay men... they became gay through a complex interplay of genetics and environmental factors.  It's hard.  Some of it has to do with their father?  Find me a gay man, and he'll tell you that his father was lousy, without fail.  Honestly, that means that some decisions went into being gay?  But I'M SURE that getting out of being gay is very difficult.

I've hated gay sex for a long time.  As a man on Earth, I knew it from the Bible?  But it makes sense why I didn't like it before time.  For one thing, it is my understanding that Donald Trump raped me in the ass before time.  Explains a lot, doesn't it?  But I'm wondering right now if I'm right to hate gay sex as much as I do.  Yeah, I don't know.  I don't like it?  But I don't know exactly how much damage it actually does.

What I find interesting, is how evil MANY BUT NOT ALL gay people are.  Not all?  Certainly Lauren and her partner aren't.  And Ian McKellen is going to my paradise for sure.  But if you know any gay people or lesbians, many of them are assholes, more than the general population.  I don't know what the connection is?  It's weird.  But it is there.

Now we get to gay marriage.  That's a toughie.  I know that there are many straight couples are terrible?  And I know there are gay couples that do a fine job in general of raising their kids.  But heterosexual couples offer something that gay couples never can - motherly love and fatherly love.  Motherly love is more unconditional?  But fatherly love is what drives us to succeed and do great things.  I think children need both.  I don't really like children being adopted by gay couples?  But I agree that that is better than living in an orphanage... 

All of these are complex topics.  I reserve the right to grow and change.  But this is where I'm at now.