Judging

This subject... is one that is near and dear to my heart. At this moment, I have a lot of anger, directed at people who judged me, anger I don't know what to do with... so I thought this subject warranted talking about.

Judging is hard to define, so I'll give an example. I was driving home from the chess tournament, and I saw a bumper sticker that basically said you can't be prochoice and also be a Christian. This really upset me- not because I consider myself prochoice (though my views on that subject are complicated or unclear) but simply because someone thinks they have the audacity to judge another person's faith based on their views on a subject Jesus didn't even talk about. We don't have that right. However, judging shows up in other forms as well. Nonchristians often have lifestyles that we would say are sinful. Does that give us the right to judge them for it? We don't know where they came from, or why they live the way they do. I'm not saying you have to agree with their actions, I'm saying that you shouldn't let your disagreement with the way they live interfer with being friends with them. The truth is, without Christ, people live in sin. Deal with it. Get over it. And stop judging nonbelievers as if they were Christians. Even Christians judge other Christians. We think we know why people do the things they do. We don't. We don't have the right to judge another believer in their weakness. If we've developed relationship with someone, we may earn the right to tell someone what we think they should do about something, but that right is earned, and shouldn't be presumed upon.

Basically... this post teaches how to be a "safe" person. Basically, I surround myself with them. I can tell a safe person from 50 feet. Lately, I wonder if nonchristians generally make better friends than Christians, because they don't judge you as much. Don't get me wrong- I have multiple Christian friends, and I'm glad they are in my life. However, I think Christians in general care more about what you do, or what you did, than how you feel, or what you are going through. The best cinematic example of what a relationship between a believer and a nonbeliever should look like, is in "The Bucket List." Someone finally showed how a Christian can make an impact, with very little "direct" evangelism. When you watch that movie, notice how Morgan Freeman's character doesn't pass judgement on Jack Nicholson's character. Because of this, he made a huge impact in the man's life. I think that is very realistic. Love takes time. Love is patient and kind- that means we shouldn't rush out and try to fix people. You can't love someone and try to fix them/treat them like a project at the same time. Either you love them, or they're a project, and there's no love in projects. No human being wants to be someone else's project. We must accept people where they are at, and love them where they are. If all my tombstone said was "Sean loved people as they were, and not as he wanted them to be." I would say my life was a success. Please... hear me out on this. Not judging people is a big deal, and the size of your impact and your ability to connect with hurting, wounded people is very much defined by how you look at them. We all need love. Nobody needs judgement. Nobody.