Saturday, November 26, 2022

Forgiveness and Ingratitude

Before you read this... I want to warn you.  This post spoils the first episode of the show, The Rehearsal.  It's a good show, and while this post doesn't spoil the whole show (I've only seen the first episode myself), if you have any intention of watching this show and want to really enjoy the first episode, I recommend not reading the rest of this post, going and watching the first episode on HBO Max, and then coming back to read what I had to say.  Now without further ado, here's my entry.

In the first episode (of what is either the first season or the only season of The Rehearsal), you meet a dude who likes to help people deal with tricky situations and in order to accomplish that, he does a lot of rehearsals so as to make sure things go off without a hitch.  He meets a guy who has a secret- he lied to his trivia team about how much education he had received- he told them he had a master's degree when he did not have one.  There was one member of the team that he thought wouldn't take the news well, so the show was all about rehearsing this meeting between this guy with the secret and this woman whom he was going to share the secret with, that he had lied to her and maintained this lie for years, and be coming clean to her.  Now this meeting was at a bar with a trivia contest, and the fact he didn't know the answers to some of the trivia questions was screwing up the rehearsals for the big meeting, so the initial dude who is helping the guy with the secret secretly gives the answers to the questions of the quiz in a way that the secret-keeper won't know that he's been given the answers, so that he'll do well in the trivia and therefore the confession will go well.  

Anyhow, the original confession goes better than expected.  The woman wasn't upset at all, she was good, even though he had lied all these years about having a master's degree, she didn't mind.  However, a very interesting thing happened after this- the helper guy confesses to the guy with the secret that he'd helped the guy succeed in the trivia contest, and the guy gets pretty upset.  He handles it MUCH WORSE than how the woman handled his confession of his secret, and is laid bare as hypocritical.  

I don't even know what to say.  Don't be like this guy.  This is an easy problem to solve- if you were really worried about the unfairness, give the prize back for winning the contest and move on.  He was UNGRATEFUL for the help, he was UNGRATEFUL that the woman took his confession so well... he was an ingrate.  He's worried that the audience of the show would judge him as not being able to answer the questions- instead, the audience of the show judged him as an ingrate.  Seriously... don't be like the secret-keeper in this episode.  If you've been forgiven much, freely forgive.  Remember The Parable of the Unmerciful Servant:

The Parable of the Unmerciful Servant

21 Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother or sister who sins against me? Up to seven times?”

22 Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.

23 “Therefore, the kingdom of heaven is like a king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants. 24 As he began the settlement, a man who owed him ten thousand bags of gold was brought to him. 25 Since he was not able to pay, the master ordered that he and his wife and his children and all that he had be sold to repay the debt.

26 “At this the servant fell on his knees before him. ‘Be patient with me,’ he begged, ‘and I will pay back everything.’ 27 The servant’s master took pity on him, canceled the debt and let him go.

28 “But when that servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred silver coins. He grabbed him and began to choke him. ‘Pay back what you owe me!’ he demanded.

29 “His fellow servant fell to his knees and begged him, ‘Be patient with me, and I will pay it back.’

30 “But he refused. Instead, he went off and had the man thrown into prison until he could pay the debt. 31 When the other servants saw what had happened, they were outraged and went and told their master everything that had happened.

32 “Then the master called the servant in. ‘You wicked servant,’ he said, ‘I canceled all that debt of yours because you begged me to. 33 Shouldn’t you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as I had on you?’ 34 In anger his master handed him over to the jailers to be tortured, until he should pay back all he owed.

35 “This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive your brother or sister from your heart.”

End of story

Seriously, don't be the unmerciful servant.  Remember- if people have been gracious to you, be gracious to others.  Right now I'm feeling convicted, because people have been merciful to me sometimes when I'm driving and I'm not always merciful to others... Lord, help us all remember that you've been merciful to us, let us be merciful to those around us.  Let us not be like the guy above, who forgot that he was just forgiven a lot, and should extend the same courtesy to the guy who helped him.  Let us not acquire your wrath by not being merciful to those that sin against us, particularly when they are wise enough to apologize... may we be the righteous servant that extends mercy to those that sin against us.  Help us forgive, as you forgive us.  Amen.

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