Why Gay Marriage is Bad

I was essentially asked this question by someone recently, and I think it is worthy of further discussion. Here is my point of view on the matter.

In order that one might understand why gay marriage is bad, you first have to understand the point of marriage as it was intended. See, this is a complex question, and will take multiple parts to answer. First of all, when God made the genders, he made them very different, each with very different strengths and weaknesses. These were designed to compliment each other, so that the children produced by such a relationship would get all the love that they need, so that they can go out in the world and do God's will for their lives. Now if we got honest, not every marriage is truly in obedience to Christ's designs, and there is no question in my mind that some loving homosexual couples do a better job than some heterosexual ones, but in the ideal situation the father gives certain kinds of love that meet needs towards the encouragement of following God's plan for the children's lives, while the mother provides the love that says that the children are loved just as they are now. I think the differences are more than that and varied, but this difference I've just illuminated is a significant key. However, there is an even more pressing issue, and that is the idea that marriage represents the relationship between Christ Jesus and his bride.

It is my opinion, which I think is based on scripture, that the marriage relationship was meant to be a demonstration to the world of Christ's relationship with the church. The man, who plays the role of Christ, is supposed to love his wife more than his own life, and be prepared to even die for her if necessary. He is her protector, her lover, and to some extent, her fulfiller. She is supposed to meet God, based on what her husband is like. On the other hand, she is supposed to trust him, and trust him implicitly. Of course, he's supposed to earn that trust by the love that he gives, but I digress... Anyhow, this relationship between man and woman was supposed to be a microcosm of what heaven is like- two people living together, with very different roles to play, but of equal importance. It was supposed to be a witness to the world of what Jesus is like, and how the church was meant to be transformed by His love. This is the ideal situation. Most marriages are not ideal, but hopefully people in the church, as a general rule, try to honor this plan for their marriage.

I hope no one reading this feels I am judging them. I'm talking here about the ideal- and few can handle it. This was what we were born for, to demonstrate God's love for each other, after of course first receiving said love from God. You cannot give what you have not received. I do not judge any man for divorcing his wife, but... I personally see no time for when that would truly be appropriate, if the man is in fact getting his needs met from God. I believe this to be a hard word, but Jesus's feelings about divorce were just as clear. As far as women are concerned, I believe there is a time and place for divorce. Men who abuse their spouses should not be tolerated...